Monthly Archives: March 2012


One of the things that an affair does in a church is create confusion.  Before the affair the church family loved and trusted the pastor to guide them, share truth and the word of God with them.  After the affair those who looked to him for leadership are confused and wonder if they can ever trust anyone again!  It’s that confusion that the enemy uses to cause problems in the lives of those who are part of the church where a pastor has sinned.  The confusion sounds like this,  “If HE could sin how can I trust my husband to not do the same thing?”  or “How could a man who says he loves God do such a thing? Is my whole Christian life a lie?”

When an affair is revealed in a pastor’s life confusion, doubt, fear, disappointment and sin are the results in the church.  It’s catastrophic!  No wonder the enemy is so busy trying to destroy pastors in this way because it literally destroys the whole church and the faith of those in it.

“How could he do that?”

“Why did he fall, I thought he was a godly man.”

“Is this whole Christian faith a lie?”

“If this is how pastors act I will never go to church again!”

Confusion… suddenly a whole church family loses its direction and it will take years to recover.  We are just now, after almost 6 years , beginning to see new life and the fading of confusion.  Sins like this are much more destructive than I ever imagined!  Confusion…one of the enemies best weapons.

March 22, 2012 update

Time changes things, doesn’t it? I think of the passage from Exodus where the author writes, “A Pharaoh rose to power who did not know or remember Joseph….” Time brings wonderful amnesia and new faces who never knew what had happened here. We are beginning to see a hint of a new sunrise in our church family. The first rays of a new day. People attending who know nothing of our past and pain. A new day and many before it changes everything.

We are also adding new staff who have no history of what we have gone through. Honestly it’s a good thing to have new staff who are excited about our church and have no knowledge of what happened.

Our church is changing slowly. It always does as it moves away from a tragedy like ours. I didn’t know if we would see daylight again, but I am seeing the beginnings of a new day. It’s exciting!

As you begin your journey in this dark land know that there will be a new day ahead. Serve the Lord, pray, teach his word, love one another and slowly…day by day….a new day will come. I just wanted to take a moment and encourage you that there is hope ahead.