One of the realities of losing a pastor to sin is grief. We may not recognize it right away, but it’s there. It feels like a death in the family, a loss we don’t have words for, the ache of a death.
In many ways it is a death and with the death of anything there is grief. After six years I still see grief in the eyes of some who went through our loss. They haven’t gotten over it yet.
I’m visiting grief again this week with the loss of a close family member. It’s especially hard because it was a self-inflicted death. The death of a pastor through infidelity is like that….unexpected, a surprise, a horrible shock…..and often it’s a grief we are unaware of, a grief that takes time to heal.
I’m convinced that most don’t see a pastor’s fall in the same way we would see a death, but it has the same results….pain, shock, loss and grief.
The only solution to grief is the healing work of God and it takes time, forgiveness and grace. If you find yourself in a church where the pastor has fallen realize you have grief to deal with. Don’t ignore it, It’s the grief of a death. Help yourself and others through these days with love, forgiveness and trust in God.