If you are visiting…


If you are visiting this site it’s because you have just discovered your pastor has fallen.  Or, perhaps you are the pastor looking for help.  No matter your status this site has resources to help.  Nearly 8 years ago our church went through the fall of our pastor.  This site journals that odyssey with a number of articles to help.

Wander around, read what we discovered, and if needed send me an e-mail.    I will be glad to help in any way I can.

8 responses to “If you are visiting…

  1. Just found out my pastor has been having an affair with praise and worship leader. She and her husband have left the church. How can you ever trust a pastor and how can you convince new Christians that God is still very much in control?

  2. Cathy, first of all I’m so sorry to hear about your pastor and what has happened. It is one of the devil’s best weapons to destroy the church. May I reply to both of your questions?

    1. How can you ever trust a pastor? Don’t forget that pastor is a sinner trying to follow God just as we are. They are not perfect. We are all just one choice away from a sin that will cause others to fall. This sin does make many jaded about pastors, their words and the church, but the real pastor of the church, Jesus Christ, can still be trusted and will never let us down. When our pastor fell I was shocked. He was a great and godly man, but he told us over and over that we are all potential sinners of the worst kind. Just don’t let it harden you. The message is still true, God still saves and there are awesome and godly men out there trying to follow and serve God.

    2. For new believers I think this is easier. They are not that far from their own sins. BUT, any person’s sins do not affect the sovereignty and control of God. He rules all things, but he gives us each free will. He will not keep us from sin, but out of what happens he will be glorified. Remember, God is fully in control and still lets us make choices that hurt the message, but he will bring the truth to light and watch over his children.

    If I can help you and your church, do let me know. I will be glad to help in any way I can.

    And, I’ll be praying for you.

    • Mike I appreciate your kind words of encouragement. I think I am confused as to whether to leave the church or stick it out. I gues it will depend on how the congregation handles it. So far I haven’t seen a repentant attitude. How can a pastor continue to speak of God and lead a church and sleep with a married woman. At what point would his conscience make him stop. They got caught is why it was brought to the attention of others. Please help. I really am just heartbroken

      Cathy

  3. Our married pastor fell within months of his coming, and the other woman was also new on staff. Both left immediately and 2 months later we have an Interim Pastor. As a staff member I was highly invested in this young man’s success. Older congregation had embraced new vision. I expect we will be a church in transition for the next year or more. Would you expect similar fallout as when the pastor has been there a long time?

    • I am so sorry to hear about this. I will be praying for you. In response to your question, no, I don’t think you will have the fallout that would come from a known and loved pastor. I do encourage your church to deal with it directly and openly. Pray for the fallen man and encourage your leadership to be more vigilant with further staff hires. From what you said I think it will have a very small impact on the church, but it might hurt young believers. This is something you will need to be watching for. Let me know if I can help in any way.

      • Thanks, Mike. We are going to choose a committee to begin the search for a new pastor soon. I am praying for God to be at work as they seek to identify the person He has prepared & called to lead us. He was in control when this man was called by the congregation a year ago …He is in control now … He will be in control when a new pastor comes. May we trust that above all!

  4. You’re welcome. I’ll be praying for you. If I can help your church with any other questions let me know. Many of the answers are already on this site in different short posts. Thanks for your follow up.

  5. Heartbroken, I write: After 40+ yrs. My highly gifted/anointed pastor has fallen from grace. I, and many others, are devasted and paralyzed! (This crisis is only two weeks old.) At least 1/8 of the church body has already departed. The Board of Deacons removed the Pastor immediate from all Pastorial duties. As a matter of fact they won’t even allow him on the church property; ad he wanted to come in to pray. All of this was done before bringing the matter to the whole church body! That I strongly disagree with. Only the ministerial staff has been called together and briefed, primarily for the purpose of setting up a monthly speakers schedule.
    I am so deeply hurt, and yes even angry at our gifted pastor for allowing this to happen. (But, for the grace of God, there go I.) Yes, I am angry, too, with myself, for the Bible teaches us ‘not to put our faith in man,’ but I truly marveled at the wisdom of my pastor and how in “rightly divided the Word of Truth.” I’m hurt too, over all the mean-spirited perishioners in our church body–No love or compassion–“let he who is without sin cast the first stone.” I understand that “the Called” are held to a higher standard, but even God “remembers our frame;” we are human, we are but dust.”
    How can you HELP me help other members of our hurting congregation? When I am asked by members who are still unaware, “whats going on with the pastor”; I simply respond, “I’m not at liberty to discuss the details, but please pray for Pastor and his family. God is in control.”

    Respectfully,
    Min. Jeri

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