Again I face the fall of a pastor. Each time I have to deal with this in a church, in a life, it’s hard. It’s messy! Lives are shattered, tears are shed, families are destroyed and faith is shaken.
I think that is the very reason Paul warns Timothy, “FLEE immorality!” It destroys far more than we could ever imagine and we can never make it right again.
Maybe this should be the first lessons for any new pastor. Here is what I would tell them,
- Sex is enticing, exciting, fun….for a moment in time.
- You are a target
- You will be tempted
- Sexual sin outside of your marriage as a pastor is a sin
- The price is far higher than you know
- The tears are more than you can imagine
- The damage will never be repaired “as it was before”
- It’s not worth it!!!!
- If you think you can “get away with it” you are wrong!
- FLEE sexual sin
There’s my short list. Every pastor taking a new church needs this drilled into his head. In one of my early churches I had several women “chasing me.” I was scared to death of the sins that would result and ran for dear life. But a few years later I left the ministry for some time away in business and suddenly the attention from women stopped. I realized, to my surprise, that it was my position they were drawn to and not me.
This is spiritual warfare and it is one of the most effective weapons of the enemy. If he can get you, as a pastor, to fall then he destroys much more than one life, much more.
So, what I say to anyone thinking about the lure of sex outside of marriage is this, “FLEE!!!!! Run for your life.”